Bennett wrote:
I appreciate all the responses and different views! I have read of the woes of Rolltide! Poor guy!! I have been visiting CR for around 5 years, thus I am kind of savy to the exploits.
Been with this girl for a year now and have many ups and downs, as in any relationship.
We do share an apt at present, I do pay all the bills. My timeline for moving to CR is the first of the year!
Seems as if the concenus is that she would have no claim to any assets earned before the marriage and would have a hard time getting to them. I do agree that to mention these points is a huge downer but after being a member of this board for years, one would be crazy not to simply ask questions! I believe that I will hold off for the time being and address this when I actually am there full time.
Thanks guys!!
Just by:
Reading your posts on this thread
Visiting CR for 15 years and 40 trips
Having a brain as well as some common sense
Cutting through all the BS, just don't do it - I know nothing about you; we have never met - but if I had to draw a picture, just from a couple of your posts and the (little) info shared here, I'd conclude the following:
There is likely what most would deem huge age disparity between the parties
Truth be told, she has (or has had) some involvement in the sex industry
You are not similar in background (obviously; you are not a tico) nor education level
You have huge fights and then get back together, w/ multiple break up's - clue for you - strong relationships with mature parties most certainly do not have "many up's and downs" - especially over silly, stupid things that if you were completly honest (w/ yourself, never mind others) you would conclude most of the "issues" and arguements were
The strongest bond you have is a good sex - she is probably the hottest, youngest, girl you have ever dated
You question whether you want to spend the rest of your life with this person (the theme of your question)
She has Ch*ldren with an other(s) partner; probably in an unmarried relationship
You conducted the relationship long distance and as of right now, for all of the relationship, you were not resident in CR
You view her family as present/future moochers
After a short time - a year all in - you are feeling pressure to be married, so much that you threw this open to guys you don't know for advice
You talk of protecting your assets first and foremost
Your words - "If you
cave and marry her..." Do you realize how that sums it all up - marrage should not be something you "cave" - should be a well thought out plan between 2 parties in love who also share common goals and asperations - Jusus, its not all that difficult, and its not rocket science - just a little common sense
I'll let the romantics and other morons keep their own opinons - but if I'm even partly correct in what I've written, you need to rethink the marrage and possibly the whole relationship - but you know that, don't you