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Toxic, I do agree with that. And I am definitely not referring to non working girl. BUT, know going in that it is gonna be work. I'm mainly talking about the concensus of the board that all gringas are evil and all the chicas here are just lovely little bundles of joy. Of chicas I've been with and friends, whom I've seen their relationships, drama is a big part down here. And it is partly the atmosphere. For heavens sake, does anyone, Latino or Gringo just live a normal life with normal daily responsibilities? At the beach it is tough because couples are in each others faces all the time. One other thing I don't like, and this could be specific to a small town, is that you basically have to declare after a date or two. No getting to know the person, see if you are compatable. Either you become a couple or nothing. I still want to know why so many need an aceptance or something for what they do. Guys get so sensitive here and have their feelings hurt. I Phuck with big balls. I don't need any approval or support group for my habits. Just a thought.

Good post Toxicnut.....Painting with a broad brush does not seem fair to me.....mis dos centavos!......Happy Holidays a Todos!!!!

SB, I concur with your sentiments here. The idea that when things don't work out, it's always the woman's fault is absurd. Unfortunately, the 'choir' here are mostly men who are not currently in a satisfying relationship. A few of us can look at our past and see that just maybe we had a hand in the problems we had. Others prefer to put all the blame on their ex(s) or take it up a notch and blame the entire gender, or a cultural subgroup or two. It's easier than

An old hippie philosopher once said something that stuck with me since. I don't quote directly but it went like: 'You can't change other people, the only person you can change is yourself.' I'll be back later... I need to go look in the mirror a while.

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We often lament how some beautiful innocent darlings get wrapped up into the life and become permanently ruined as hard core "can't turn them into a housewife" hoe...But Santa you are so correct that we on he other side of the coin can't be turned into a faithful loving husband after a long hard stint at mongering either. And I would even go further to say that for many of us, including YO, that even if we found a chick that rated 10 in every category we would still, as mongers, not give a second thought to sticking the little head somewhere it wanted to go. And if a chica knows you monger she would have to be naive an idiot to think you would change.

Es la vida

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For the record, I'm not damaged goods. I'm in a two year relationship with a tica. We have normal ups and downs, but generally are happy most of the time.

I'm speaking as a general rule. I'm also speaking about my experiences which lasted about a year dating chicas that were not hookers, but were not much better in any relationship. Did I just kiss too many frogs? Who knows? They were all dynamite in the sack. And, I dumped all of them. So, I never even came close to a broken heart.

Of these handful of chicas... One stole money from me. The other consistently lied to me. The other tried to swindle me on a real estate deal. The other was just poor latin trash.

Chicas, ticas, nicas... whatever you want to call girls that live in Costa Rica... have a lot of issues.

What people on this board call negativity... is actually reality. In reality, if you are looking for a girl next door type, you can do much better in anglo countries... thus an exaggerated reference to London and New York.

Anyhow... guess I hurt some feelings or perhaps jostled someone's rose-colored glasses. But, then isn't that what an open board is all about?

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The credibility thing - I don't understand. Credibility has to do with dependability and honesty. On both accounts, I should actually be given good scores. You can expect me to be consistently negative - when it comes to dating/marrying hookers. You can expect me to be consistently realistic - when it comes to dating non-hookers in Costa Rica.

I have been with the same woman for over 2 two years, so I have not been actively dating (or cheating) in Costa Rica.

Okay - let me say a few positive things. They are generally great in bed and way more liberal about sex. This is a huge plus over american women. They also don't act like feminist nazi bitches like some of our sisters up north.

But, after three years of living (and 2 years of business travel) in Costa Rica, I think I can paint a pretty good picture of life in Costa Rica. Especially, since I have not stepped into the gulch more than a handful of times in the past three years. I've got a pretty good grasp on the general state of women down here. And, this is without rosey glasses.

Here are some general conceptions of girl next door:

The girl next door does not have hidden plans of her own, because her character and personality are open and straightforward, and because her social, economic, and sexual intentions do not need to be concealed

She is the sweet-tempered girl he sees daily, a really great 'pal' friend, hence the "perfect" girl to take home to his parents. Often, she is a sexual virgin, and, because of that, her "innocent" manner is the façade of many American erotic fantasies portraying her "girl next door" image as the pretense behind which is the true, very sexually aggressive woman.

THIS IS STRAIGHT FROM THE WIKIPEDIA. This is the stereotype.

This whole concept flies high and large in the face of a latina in Costa Rica:

1. Chicas down here are famous for having their own plans and hidden agendas. This is all part of their drama which they love. If they can't get it in their novelas, then they create it in real life.

2. Chicas down here ABSOLUTELY use sex EXACTLY because of their socio-economic condition.

3. Sweet-tempered girl??? Give me a friggin' break. If she is pissed off, which can happen in an instant. Better off sleeping out back in the dog house. She might start threatening you. She might start throwing shit at you. She might even call the police and tell them that YOU are abusing them. Latinas are passionate and lack emotional intelligence. They wear their mood on their sleeve. And... there certainly are a microscopic amount of sweet-tempered ones.

4. Sexual virgin and innocence????? GIVE ME ANOTHER FRIGGIN' break!!!!! However, this is the part I like. If you don't get laid on your first date, then something went wrong. Many latinas enjoy dropping their panties... and I for one reciprocate.

So, if you think you're gonna find the "girl next door down" easily here in Costa Rica, you better first find a witch that can put some good voodoo on you or something. Cuz, you sure will have a hard time finding it by any other means.

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Man isnt it something ,that when we are in our twentys,we are all Badazzs.We are not vunerable to S*^t and we can get any woman and turn her into The Princess Bride. Hey ,Atica it just seems like Movies,Media,and Mainstream Pop Culture,give Guys this false idea that there is a "Tica Princess in waitin" .Which is Horse #%$^%
I do think there are Single Chicas available .Pro and Non Pro , that want to get out the Competition(see HDR on a good nite).But, as many on here are constantly alluding to , it take time,trust and ultimatelely a solid commitment from her(Remember what middle class,and rich represent in CR),and u my man .Are you gonna sacrifice the game,for -ONE Chica Tica?

Im in Miami Chicas...

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Perhaps its an age thing although that may not be a popular thing to say. Point blank, if a woman loves you (*ahem* for real) then all the stereotypes are out the window..

Problem comes when a man thinks his girl is in love with him because he wants her to be..

Situations like that (which happen all the time) fail, 10 out of 10 times..


Cujo

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Chi, reality is not a real popular concept on the board. And I find it interesting how guys get so touchy when reality rears it's ugly head. The defensiveness tells it all. Kind of sad really.

Chi wrote:



Chi,

All those failed attempts at a quality relationship is pretty heartbreaking in itself.

Perhaps you should consider Santa's advice and take a look at the man in the mirror.

Just sayin'

Don't do it. you went to CR to enjoy your self. keep on enjoying your self. this is a receipt for disaster my friend.

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The man in the mirrror is fine. Why make this a personal thing? They were failed relationships, because I dumped them. Why? Because they were bad chicas. Why did I pick them up? They were hot and seemed cool at first sight. But, in reality, if you were to throw a symbolic net out there a grab a group of 100 of them. Well over 60% of them would fall into the "bad chica" category. The other 35% would probably fall into a grey area. And, maybe 5% would fall into what I call "good chica" status. The numbers in Costa Rica do not favor the "girl next door" concept.

Two years ago, the woman that stole $100 on a second date is NOT FINE. Although, I'm certain she thought that since I'm a rich gringo, and I was stupid enough to leave it tucked inside my passport and inside a dresser drawer. That she was fully entitled to it.

And there are guys on this board that side with the girl and/or consider "a girl next door" type. Probably even laugh and say it was my fault that I brought a thief into my house. Well guess what.... you bring a random chica into your house on a second date.... you might have yourself a thief.

I remember a couple of years back, a guy on the board who was really stupid enough to marry the first girl he EVER sessioned with at the HDR. HE GOT ALLLLLLLLLL THE SUPPORT AND EMPATHY from guys on this board. Whereas I - who never dated one.... and steadily side on the other side... Get criticism. Personal jabs all the time. I even got mugged and was shit upon afterwards.

Thirdworld actually has it right. Those rosey colored glasses are really sensitive. Who then should be taking them off and looking in the mirror?

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Well, you just seem to have more than your fair share of problems. That being said, I do admire your willingness to share your experiences.

Sorry if the mirror comment came off as personal. My intent was to suggest that perhaps you're inordinate number of problems are the result of approach you are taking.

Again, just sayin'

Maybe we should just go ahead and drink the kool-aid Chi!!

I still don't understand the inordinate amount of problems I'm having as opposed to any other gringo in Costa Rica???? I've been with the same woman for over two years now.

If you ask me... the guys with the problems... are drinking the cool-aid, that they hand out at the Del Rey. There even are guys that have lived down here for a decade and still can't separate reality from fantasy. I suppose if you never leave the gulch, then that is possible?

I stopped drinking that cool-aid years ago... even while I was still a monger.

This topic was about a young guy who wanted to find a girl next door type down here in CR. I still haven't heard anyone saying.... OHH YEAHHH TONS OF EM DOWN HERE. Just go here and look there or go there and look here.

No man.... its just not that easy in Costa Rica. You want to find a sweet-tempered girl, with innocence and virginity, your only chance in CR is in a monastery.

Or, if you feel a little crazy, go find a witch in Escazu... and make her put a voodoo spell on the only chica in town that hasn't dropped her panties for several dozen different guys. But, isn't that why we call came down in the first place???? Now I'm confused!!!

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