budmon44 wrote:
Can some of you please give me advice on this matter. I'm in a spot where I can save up comfortably and retire to Central or South America in the future. I know it's ultimately up to me, but would really appreciate your thoughts and opinions about this crossroads in my life.
Late to the party, but, divorce then-and-there. Don't even
think about it. Just do it.
Any half-decent poker player will tell you to fold when the hand can't win, not when you're emotionally comfortable with walking away from "your" share of the pot.
Any quarter-decent investment banker / portofolio manager will tell you to sell out your bad lines asap and let the good ones ride. The longer you wait on a bad line the further costs mount. It's often an exponential, exactly like the compounding interest line.
And eight-decent estate attorney will tell you to close out bad deals early. Your income increases over time, but your wife's share of it stays the same. Getting rid of a nag at 30 will be infinitely cheaper than getting rid of the same nag at 40 -- except she won't stay the same nag over a decade.
Read the RFM threads, and think. What is the difference between a wife you don't like and some self-entitled rando in a different country ?
If you're even vaguely considering divorce, do it, right then ; and then tell the girl exactly what you tell the girl : that you'll see her when you're in town, maybe. If she lives up to your standards it may be worth her while. That's it.