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These chicas are not nearly as dumb nor stupid as we would sometimes like to think. Sending RFMs is a common practice and is openly discussed among the chicas. Common assumption is if they send 50 and get one positive reply , it was worth it. They also know that most of us do not like getting RFMs so they try to make them as serious and convincing as possible, and if you reply with a no, and especially with a reason why the "no" you will almost always get a reply telling you they are sorry.

One of my regulars just told me she had sent a request for a $50 Xmas "gift" to every guy she had contact info on. I asked her if she had sent me one! No, because I was not just a customer; but also a friend, and she knew not to send one to me!! I told her to be careful because guys did not like getting them and she would likely lose some clients because of sending them, She replied that yes she knew it was a risk but she really needed the money. What more could I say!!!

This would not be a problem if it were not for the fact that a lot of guys must fall into the trap and send money. If no one sent money they would soon stop asking!! I say "a lot of guys send money" because of it having become such a widespread activity. It seems almost every chica I know now does it.

Rac
I believe you.
Great to hear you are on good terms. This Chica wants to remain on very very good terms, since after she wrote to say sorry she has sent me about ten chatty emails, as if it never happened. As the thread indicates, this is just standard operating procedure. If you say no, it does not affect anything at all. Like it never happened.
So my question is, who is sending money? Seems like it would have to be guys who do not read CRT or this thread.

Bat,

When I read your question I said to myself "you'd be surprised who", then I read BangBang's comment.

I am continually surprised to hear a guy tell me he's sending a girl (or has sent a girl) considerable amounts of money and/or expensive items. (one guy told me he bought a girl a hours years ago). What can really surprise me is that it is often long time veterans telling me this. Some are active here, some are not. Doesn't matter.

Let me be very clear here: I do not judge them for this. I hear them, I understand, I get what they are telling me, and I respect them for their choices.

I read guys here saying "well, he's just doing it to stroke his own ego". I have never seen it this way. I've not heard one man tell me he did or does this because it makes him feel important, or superior, or puts him in a position of power.

They do it because they care.

Seems like most of the stories I hear in this vein end up badly; she just asks for more, doesn't deliver on promises, etc., etc., etc. I cannot change that. But what I can do is listen, understand, feel for the guy, and HEAR what he's saying to me.

This hobby is not for the feint of heart. It will smack the fucck out of you at any given moment. When our emotions are involved, the need to be wanted/appreciated/loved, we open ourselves to manipulation.

As we process this somewhat light-hearted discussion about the ubiquitous RFM, let's remember there are real human beings on both ends of this deal. Often they are very intelligent people and know what the fucck is going on.

This thread is a good way to shed light on the problem, but please respect the humans involved. All you have to do is talk to guys about it…listen to them (not here…in person).

Also, I've never tried to talk a guy out of it; they usually understand what's going on, or how they got sucked into it, and some of them are guys who post on CRT warning against things such as RFMs so there's little I could tell them anyway.

As with so many other things on CRT, there's what is said here, and then there is what is actually done there.

I suppose.......for some guys (not me) , money is not that important an issue.

They probably send money to stroke their own egos as much as to help a hard working girl.

More power to them and to the girls..........because it doesn't affect me at all.

I saw an episode of "The Andy Griffith Show," where Sherriff Taylor was telling Oppie,"An honest man will never ask you for money. They will do without before they ask you for money." These girls are not doing without. They aren't starving and they are sending you an RFM from a smartphone better than yours.