A man doesn’t even have to be rich to meet women here; a pension of $2,000-$3,000 translates into a millionaire’s pay in Costa Rica.
Here is what one expat’s Costa Rican wife said about her relationship in a recent edition of a local publication. “Most of the time when a young woman marries an older man, people think she’s doing it for the money. I like older men. They are experienced; they’ve had a lot of fun in the past, so they start to think, ‘I want to stay now with someone for the rest of my life.’ Plus they have their life set up, so they have time to spend with their woman.”
With Costa Rican men close to her age, she says, their behavior changes after marriage. With Costa Rican men, you are a princess, but when you get married the whole thing changes: “You are going to have my children. I’m working, so you should make my dinner, wash my clothes.” The women get submissive and the men get possessive.
“Costa Rican men don’t see their women in the home being the porn star they watch on TV. Ticos think the woman at home is pretty, sweet and the mother of their children.”
No wonder Costa Rican women are highly sought by foreign men. However, before becoming involved with a Costa Rican woman, you should realize many cultural differences can lead to all kinds of problems, especially if you do not speak Spanish fluently. I have seen so many disasters with people who try to create a relationship without a common language. If a Costa Rican woman is in your future, you are going to have to be able to communicate with her. Even if she speaks some English, the nitty-gritty type of communication that a real relationship requires will definitely require some effort on your part. Men need to seriously consider studying Spanish if they want to have a successful relationship with a native Spanish speaker. See www.costaricaspanish.net for tips on how to learn the language.
Generally, Latin women are more jealous and possessive than American women, and tend not to understand our ways unless they have lived in North America. Also, be aware that because of their comparative wealth, most Americans, especially the elderly, are considered prime targets for some unscrupulous Latin females.
In some cases there is another bad side to marrying a Costa Rican woman. You can end up supporting her whole family, either directly or indirectly, as many foreigners complain.
I advise you to give any relationship time and make sure a woman is sincerely interested in you and not just in your money. You will save yourself a lot of grief and heartache in the long run.
Here are some general tips from on how to avoid be victimized:
(1) If a woman claims she doesn’t have an ID, it is not a good idea to pick her up. She obviously wants to remain anonymous for some dark reason, or she is illegal, another reason not to mess with them.
(2) Don’t bring strange women home. Get to know them first. There are plenty of love motels in Costa Rica, they are inexpensive and the girl doesn’t see where you live and what you have.
(3) There are fun places to visit, but be careful if you are planning to pick up women at the well-known hook-up bars and other bars where the women are anonymous. If you do, however, don’t be afraid to ask to see her ID, write down her name and ID number. Prostitution is legal here, if she is age 18 or over, and there is no reason why she wouldn’t give you her ID to look at. It is a business. They have to show their IDs when they go to hotels with a guy. This is how the hotels protect their clients.
(4) Ask the girl where she is from. Most will tell you they are from Colombia, Nicaragua or the Dominican Republic. Be especially careful with these foreign women. If you are planning to pick one up, don’t carry a lot of money and leave your credit cards at home.
(5) There are plenty of places where the girls and the rooms are in the same building. You don’t have to take the girls somewhere else. The rooms are right there. The managers of these places know the women and have copies of their IDs. The women work on a regular basis, and if there is any funny business is reported by the customers, the managers won’t let the woman work there any more. Also, coincidently, most of the women in these places are Costa Rican women who don’t have to worry about being threatened by the tough foreign girls at other bars which seem to be dominated by foreign women, many of whom are illegal here.
Christopher Howard is a Costa Rican citizen and has lived in Latin America for 47 years. For information on his books about living in Costa Rica and award-winning relocation/discover/retirement tours see: www.liveincostarica.com and www.costaricabooks.com