Ilv4play wrote:
I met a girl last year in CR and have not been with anyone since. I made 7 trips back to see her in the year and honestly it was something neither of us wanted, or thought would ever happen. I had no desire to ever get into a cohabitating relationship ever again but this has been an incredible year. If I took all of the good things I liked about all of the women I ever dated this woman possesses all of them and then some. Our relationship is truly transparent and from the beginning has been based on mutual trust and respect. I have the passwords to her phone, facebook and email accounts and she has access to mine. I know about her darkest secrets and choices she made that she was not proud of and she knows about my past as well. There are no games from either side and it is an amazingly balanced relationship. I have met plenty of lying cheating women in both the states and others in CR, but all I can say is we both knew it from the start that this was different and we both needed to open the door for the other. I have never been as happy in my life as I am now and I have the knowledge from past mistakes to not Phuck this one up........
Ilv4play wrote:
For me what matters is from the day we met and those moving forward. I know I have not been a prince all my life, but finding someone that makes you want to be a better person, is a life changing experience. I will say she has made some very significant choices, all of which I did not ask her to make, and I have changed some habits as well. Her decision to quit smoking was huge because she committed to it, and stuck with it which I am very proud of her for. She voluntarily lost friends that she knew were toxic and sends me any messages that come from people from her past so I know what is being said. I do the same for her. It seems like the culture of Costa Rica thrives on wanting to prevent people from making a better life for themselves and deciding you want to give up any connections to that past because of a new person in your life is a very big decision. The past is something that cannot be changed but the future has a whole new set of choices and opportunities. It is a time to start with a clean slate and if you are smart enough to learn from past mistakes or decisions that did not quite go the way you wanted them to, then you are ahead of the curve and are using the tools available to build a better life. I have found a happiness that I never would have imagined existed, and prior to meeting this woman I thought I was very happy. Anyway whatever your feelings are on the subject, the bottom line is you are the one that is responsible for your happiness. If you are not happy in your life figure out why and make the changes required and give yourself a new lease on life.
Ilv4play wrote:
I have always looked at the dynamics of getting into bed with a woman from the point of; if I were to take a girl out in the States I would have to buy dinner at least once, maybe 3 times, spend painful time talking and getting to know her, yet be kept wondering if she would be rock my boat or be the typical passionless gringa that gives it up because she feels obligated. I see nothing wrong with giving the cash to a woman that I would have spent on a date, in order to get the knowledge I desire. Not once that I can remember did I ever treat one of these woman as if I was better than them, or that they were not worthy of my company. Until someone gives me a reason to dislike them, or have a negative opinion about them, I consider everyone on a level playing field, this goes for men as well. In my eyes a persons character is not defined by wealth, nationality, religion or looks, it is defined as how you treat those around you. You can be in the top 1% but that does not give you carte blanche to act like a dick to your waiter, chauffeur, stewardess or whomever. Everyone takes a shit the same way and just because you might be smarter, better looking or have more money, does not make it ok to be an ass. Everyone has to take a shit and everyone needs to wipe their ass. Being a good person is not dictated by your heritage or your wealth, but how you treat others and the compassion you have.
I cannot count how many of the women that I have been with over the years have wanted to repeat with me or just hang out if I was at the bar and not interested in going back to the room with them. A lot of them would spend the night with me because after spending some time talking and hanging with me they knew I would make them feel comfortable and safe and not be a creep. I know my way of doing things is a lot different than most of the guys here and what works for you is important. I tend to be more into making sure my partner is enjoying herself and I want her to get her rocks off before turning the attention to me. I found this approach would get me farther than if I would have approached her with a shopping list of things I wanted to do in bed. Once a woman is turned on, it is very easy to steer her into the direction you want to go. The only thing that I would make sure they knew before leaving and heading off to the room, was that we would be a few hours and that she had better be ready for multiples because I wanted to see how many times I could get her off.
Anyway back to the topic, not all of the girls out there are hardcore putas, and even some of the ones that are, if you can get them to forget about the clock, and get into the moment, they might surprise you. I do know a few though that should be in politics because all they know how to do is Phuck people over for their gain. That being said whatever makes you happy is what you need to do and who gives a shit what other people think as long as you are not hurting anyone.
^ These are powerful words... Wisdom and lessons that can only be learned from living life and learning from past mistakes. Good for you Ilv4play! Thanks for posting, I enjoyed reading it. Pura Vida!