I began looking for this ‘life partner’ shortly after I split with the wifey. I knew my needs, and I knew it would take time. I had already decided to scrap any desire to find a gringa (for the obvious reasons). Frankly, though I make decent money, I am only able to ‘bottom-feed’ in the dating pool of the USA. I’d rather be alone in that case.

But then! Suddenly! I found out about Costa Rica. I could go and phuck prostitutes at the same time as trawl about looking for a decent woman to take home with me. Jesus, what a pain in the ass that turned out to be. But I kept at it. Every trip I took had a dual purpose. I would meet women on dating sites, try to vet the hookers out as best I could, and then arrange dates to meet these women.

I met a lot of good people, but I started to realize that some of the issues I faced in the USA existed here as well. Let me tell you what I am looking for (Your taste may vary):

1. She’s gotta be easy on the eyes. Beauty isn’t a necessity, but dog-ugly is OUT.
2. She has to WANT to have a life. Not just a sit-at-home wifey thing. She has to have real hopes and dreams, and be intelligent enough to actually try to make it happen.
3. She has to be young enough to MAKE it happen. I learned quickly that once you pass a certain age, you are done growing. She needs to be in the growing stages so that she will tackle the language, grab onto opportunities to better herself, and make her own opportunities.
4. She needs to be able to out-grow me. Whether this means leaving me for someone else, or building a life to be self-sufficient, I want her to move on at some point and leave me behind.
5. Preferably no K*ds, but I’d be willing to adopt. But she has to be ready to accept mine as I am hers. I don’t want a woman that’ll put her K*ds first (equality is the goal).

Clearly this woman doesn’t exist in my sphere of influence, but I can try to come as close as possible. I am sure that you’ve noticed I say nothing about a sex life. Mongering can give me that. My needs are specific, and it doesn’t revolve around intimacy. It would be nice to have, but it’s not the principal purpose of this campaign. I need a female in my life that I can get along with, have fun with, and cover all the bullshit day-to-day dramas that life throws our way.

** with this said, a disclaimer. If anyone thinks they are going to bring back a sex partner and have it last, you’re deluded. If you are not willing to grow her into something far bigger than you are, then you will end up disappointed. Plan to have her leave you. There are plenty more in the pond. But don’t think you’ll keep her in a closet until you need to bust the nut. It simply doesn’t work like that.

The limited words make this sound very clinical. It isn’t. Just read between the lines.

So ...

Did you adopt the K*D?

Btw- who says that you have to adopt the K*D? You can accept/love the K*D without officially adopting him. I have never given any serious thoughts to adopting my step daughters but treat and love them as my own.

ahh ... think the general belief is that you have to adopt them to bring them over.

Thanks for the clarification.

However, when you bring the wife, you'll also be financially responsible for the k*d in the eyes of the U.S. government for five years or until they are both U.S. citizens (if I remember right).

Perhaps it is not paranoid or a stretch to think that BD well publicized plans on this board somehow got to the ears at the consulate in San Jose....just saying.

Here are the ways you can get out of the responsibility once you become an immigrant sponsor:
1. The immigrant becomes a US citizen
2. The immigrant legally works for 10 years (40 quarters)
3. The immigrant turns in their green card and leaves the US
4. The immigrant dies (naturally )
5. The immigrant gets deported

You forgot one
The Sponser dies

Howz the campaign going?

I am currently digging a tunnel under the Gulf of Mexico.

I'll keep you up to date.